On Thursday, I picked my mom up from the airport. She's been here visiting for the weekend. After I picked her up, we went to eat lunch. I had Eli with me, but didn't have Eva because she was at preschool. One of the servers/hostesses asked me what I was having. I told her we were having another boy and she half smiled and half gave me a look of "You're gonna have your hands full!" As she was walking away, I told her, "And I couldn't be happier!"
The next day, we were in another store and had both kids. I was holding Eli on my hip as mom was paying for her items. The cashier asked me what I was having. I smiled and told her another little boy! She completely huffed and half rolled her eyes!
REALLY, LADY?!?! Are you KIDDING me?!?! (For the record, if I hadn't been trying to pick my jaw up off the floor, I probably would have slugged her.) Do you really have that much invested in my family that you are so disappointed that I'm having another boy??? Thank you for sharing you opinion. It made my day bright.
Yes, I am well aware that having two little boys just 17 months apart is going to be a challenge at times. But I could not be happier about having another little boy. I mean, really, how much fun am I going to have with all the frog hunts and digging for worms and playing kick ball and baseball? I am looking forward to playing some football with them and teaching them how to shoot a basketball. I'm sorry about Grumpy-grumperson over there, but I'm going to have a blast with my two little boys! I can't wait!
I'm sure others have you have gotten similar looks and comments when strangers realize how close in age your children are. My experiences with this are just beginning and I'll be honest, it ticks me off! I need to come up with some really graceful responses so that I don't say something nasty when I'm having a bad day.
I really hope this goes without saying, that this has absolutely nothing to do with how many kids any of you have or want to have. It's all pouring out of my own frustration of being judged by complete strangers for having children close in age: A) as if I planned it that way or B) as if I have any control over the sex of my child. That's all.
Okay. Ranting over! Just needed you all to be irate with me over the audacity of some people.
9 comments:
Oh those type of comments are so frustrating!! It really does shock me too what people have the gall to say...& they don't seem to think twice about it.
Having your kids close together is a little hard at the beginning...but then is SOOO wonderful as they have built in playmates! how great it'll be for your little boys to have each other! When you come up with a great thing to say back..post it! I need something to say to people as well.
Mary Lynne
As Brad would say, there are just people out there who have no clue and their comments make you lose faith in humanity a little....but those are people that do not know you at all. You are very blessed, and as someone who has a sister only 14 months younger than me...I think it was just perfect the timing between us. Especially now. You are about to give birth to Eli's best bud...very blessed..no rolling of the eyes over here! :)
Don't worry, I get some of the same opinionated responses. Between the boys there are 22 months, and between CJ and EE there are 18 months. Contrary to what the general opinion is, we LOVE our kids close in age, and we wouldn't have it any other way. And if you really want to knock some socks off, we planned it that way! Ha! Tell some of those folks that and they may have a stroke!
As for responses, I try to answer with God's love, but frankly, sometimes it is hard. The most common comment I hear is, "Boy, you sure are busy." And I try to gracefully reply something like, "Yes. Everyone is busy with something...I enjoy being busy with my children." Anyway, sorry those folks felt the need to tell you what they rudely thought. Maybe one day they will discover the joy of kiddos.
I COMPLETELY understand!!!...and get that ALL THE TIME!!! I just smile and don't say a thing, because I am not very nice, haha!
Geez...some people. That's all I have to say about that. The other thoughts are not very blog appropriate.
Sorry you've gotten these comments too, and I'm sure you'll get a lot more since most people don't have filters. A guy looked at me several months back as I was happily walking into a store with my 2, who happened to be silent at the time, and said "you sure have your hands full!" I was a little confused since people usually say that when someone is crying but whatever. I wanted to say many things but surprisingly opted for by best fake smile and "yep and that's the way I like it!" Hope it gets better for ya!
I laughed out loud t the part about "do you really have that much invested in my family?"
ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha
Oh my goodness! I wish I would of been with you because I would of given them my 2 cents!!! I can not even begin to tell you how many times I got that look or those comments! People would tell me they felt sorry for my for having 3 boys and would ask if I was going to try again for a girl! I would tell them, "No, I wanted a boy! I would also tell them that I don't try to get pregnant so that I will have a boy/girl, I get pregnant because I want a BABY!!!! Any time anyone would ever tell me how sorry they felt for me I would tell them that even before I was on this Earth, HE knew that I was going to have 3 precious boys!!!! What an honor to raise up godly young men who will be leaders for Him!!!! He trusts us enough Haley that He gave us precious boys to raise up to Love Him and Serve Him!! (Also sweet Eva, I just feel like now a days it is hard to find men who are fully devoted to the Lord! I can only imagine what it will be like in 20 years!) Sorry for my ranting, I get pretty serious when someone messes with my boys or your boys!! I love you and love your precious boys who will be close in age!!! =)
sounds to me like you need to move back to the south for some "southern hospitality!" (Or maybe that's my way of getting you closer to us!! :)
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